A few days ago I wrote some posts about adoption disruption. During the last week I have had several great conversations with the new family of one of the children whom I was speaking about. Given that I am friends with the old family and the new family I have to respect the new families wishes and this child's privacy for their new life has already begun. Yes yes- what a Blessing! And a story full of miracles and how things really came around full circle for this child.
The new adoptive family is requesting that all reference to this child or their situation be taken off the internet. So I did go back and change the posts to remove any of the identifying information. Just in case you read those posts and wonder why they seem slightly cryptic. I agree with the notion that this child has the right to privacy. The right to a new lease on life. The right to heal and move on. The right to be all that he can be. And I would hate to think that I contributed to this child feeling less than, or created anymore negative feelings towards this child than already existed.
While respecting privacy issues I wanted to also ask for your prayers for the families involved. May both families work together to forever do their best for "their child." May their families seek counseling to help heal from all that they have suffered and been through during these trying times. May the counseling help them to understand what they are feeling and help them to process their feelings in a constructive and positive way. Pray that the child will be able to move on and attach to the new family after multiple traumas and moves over the course of their lifetime. May the child be able to grow and become all that they can and that the child will continue to walk with the Lord our Savior.
On another note... I added a new link to the side bar. After my posts about disruption I was contacted by this program about putting a link to their therapy counseling website on my blog. While I don't have first hand experience in working with this particular counseling referral program, I was impressed that in one fast click you can find resources to help with your adoption mental health questions. There is lack of resources for most families who deal with mental health issues especially those that are enhanced by adoption issues. As a Mother who has some children with mental health needs it has become clear to me that these issues are just as prevalent to my family as those issues of my children with medical or learning needs. We can't "will" or "love" our children better. It is our duty as their parents to seek professional help when needed especially with our children who are adopted and for whom have been entrusted to us with sordid histories and heavy emotional baggage. So if your family is in turmoil, or you find some less than happy moments heavy on your heart, check on the link to the right. I receive no financial or other gain from posting the link on my side bar- I just thought it might be a good resource to help someone.