
Excitement: the state of being emotionally aroused and worked up
For my dear friends who have children coming home soon and sooner.
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I am so excited for you both and for my dear friend Heather-no blog- who will travel to Liberia in January. It has been several days of great news for many near and dear to me friends. I love that.
Defeated: defeated - disappointingly unsuccessful; "disappointed expectations and thwarted ambitions";
As I sit here waiting helplessly for news on Isaac I feel utter defeat at the moment. I am trying to devise a plan of action, more time to pray, and wishful thinking. Yet I feel defeat in this wait.
Bitter:Resulting from or expressive of severe grief, anguish, or disappointment
I am bitter of people's feelings, rules, laws and opinions of family size. I could likely write an entire month's worth of posts on this subject but just let me say this. I most often hear this reply when people dig to find out how many children we have "I only have (insert 1, 2, 3 here) children and I can't even handle the ones I have, I can't imagine having 13!!"
This is why Haiti feels the way it does, this is why WA state has the laws regarding foster to adopt that they do (no more than 6 children), this is why YOU shouldn't have/adopt anymore kids! But please, spare me your shortcomings! Let myself and my husband and our social worker (Master's degree many years of working for the state foster care system) be the judge of what we can and can not handle. Just because YOU can't imagine it, or DO IT, doesn't mean that WE can't. I know people with two children who shouldn't have anymore and people with 10 who could easily have another 5. It's just a number folks, get over it! What is right or wrong for you, or what you can imagine, isn't the same for me, or everyone else. It's this mindset that is making my son WAIT in Haiti. It's this mindset that needs to be lifted NOW because there are too many family-less, security less, attachment less, children HERE and everywhere who would love nothing more than to be a part of my big AMAZING family.
And let it be said that shouldn't "parenting" and "experience with children" and "open mindedness" and "accepting families" mean something to you people? If I were the one signing the files, the people who have a large amount of adoptive children who they have committed their lives to, who haven't so much as blinked at the adversity, who have rose above all else, who haven't faltered in what they said they would do, WOULD GET TO THE TOP OF THE PILE.
Doesn't that make sense? Or have I gone off the deep end. It makes me bitter. It makes me restless, it makes me want to do big things to make changes.
Proud:Feeling pleasurable satisfaction over an act, possession, quality, or relationship by which one measures one's stature or self-worth:
I am so proud of my "big girls" Leishan and Lauren. Lei has called to come over three times this week because she just wants to spend time with her brothers and sisters. I thought maybe she had laundry to do, or needed some home-cooked food, but no, she just wanted to spend some time. I am seeing her mature and grow into an amazing, independent young woman and it's awesome. I am so proud of her.
Lauren... where can I start? Can I clone this child? Seriously?
After a really long day with my hubby working (just "some" hours this week), the kids were not nice to one another today... she got home from classes and made all those annoyed/long day/negative Mommy feelings go away. She told me about some paper that she had to do for a class where she had to write about what influences her life: Parents or Peers. Although her teacher said at their age, it was peers that likely would influence them the most... Lauren wrote about her peers, and how she loves and appreciates her friends, but that they aren't her greatest influence in her life. They do make bad choices and she still considers them friends and cares for them, but uses her parents influence of making good moral choices over making the bad choices with her peers. I am so proud of Lauren for being such a NICE person. She has always been this intense compassionate, giving soul, even when she was very young. Lauren is now cooking some pasta so I have a moment to write this, and her dad gets a break after working all day hard labor. And I am so proud to be one of her parents. :)
So as you can see I am painfully teetering on the brink of emotional rollercoasterdom.
Just another manic Monday.
Love,
Sarah